A New Year, A New Resolution

It’s hard to believe that it’s already 2016. A New Year, a new resolution or two. It’s time to close out one year and prepare for the next.

I’m looking back over the last year and see that I’ve started a new chapter in my life. While I’m still working things out I know I’m going into the right direction.

My first resolution is to continue my blog. My blog is still in the works and I’m learning all kinds of things. I can’t wait to put them into action.  I’m still having some technical issues, but see things coming together in the very near future.

Those following and reading, I hope you’ll stick with me as I put it together.

My New years resolution is to keep going and working my a- – off.

I would love your opinions. I’ve gotten a few but would love more.  Please comment, message me on facebook or send me an email. There’s also a contact form below.

I’m looking forward to a fabulous 2016 and putting my resolutions into action.

Ho Ho Holidays are here!

Thanksgiving has passed and the shopping season is in full swing. The Ho Ho Holidays are here! Ready or not, they are here. At my house we are getting ready for our family traditions.

Our traditions have changed over the years. My favorite thing to do is to put the ornaments on my tree. As I pull each ornament out it brings back a memory. It’s like reading your history book each year. At times the kids wanted to help and other times they didn’t. But now I make them help me even if it’s just a little bit.

Picking a favorite ornament isn’t easy either. There’s one that a second mom to my husband made for us using our wedding napkins. The ornament from Disney World is always fun, I loved taking my kids to Disney. Then there’s the Wooden ornament that’s a lobster that has claws that move when you pull the string. Of course the ornaments that are homemade by my kids or my sister, even myself. Of course I could go on, but you get the idea.

Putting on holiday music while sitting in front of a fire with some Hot Chocolate is always a treat. A great way to relax at the end of a long day of shopping.

Wrapping is a fun thing to do too. Although not my favorite, seeing everything wrapped and under the tree is a great feeling of accomplishment.

Watching everyone open on Christmas morning is fun too. And I must say I like seeing what I got too.
It always amazes me how busy the season is and how much people put into it. Driving around and seeing all the house is another tradition. There are so many homes that are beautiful. It’s a great way to enjoy the evening with family. Sometimes I get the kids to go with me too.

And I can’t leave out holiday fun with friends. I love getting together with friends over the holidays. Sometimes it’s the only time we see each other throughout the year. In fact, one friend and I are going to make a resolution to see each other sometime outside of November December.

The 10 Year Rule for Happiness

We spend time worrying about things and trying to find happiness. It’s right there. Don’t you see it? The 10 year rule for happiness is when you reflect on the past 10 years and look at what worked and what makes us happy.

As the years go by we change. Hormones are different, life situations change and as human beings, we hate change. Each decade our life to bring on new life changes and we have to adapt. We don’t see it, but it’s there. Some of us have no problem going through these changes and others know something is different and they can’t pinpoint it.

THE FIRST 10 YEARS
This is the time that we learn the functional things you need to know to survive. Eating, crawling, walking, talking, playing and socializing just to name a few. But by the time we are getting close to the age of 10. We are ready to move on and start being our own little independent selves.

10 TO YOUR TEENS
During this time frame we start to become our own person. We really want to be independent, and start to develop who we want to be. Are we smart, beautiful, social, popular, a jock or a nerd. Of course this time in our lives are so hard. Everyone is judging us. There’s bullies and buddies. We fight to be our own person.

IN YOUR 20’S
Now you’re in your 20’s and you’re educated and working, maybe finding your soul mate, getting married, having kids or getting your own home and decorating it the way you’ve always dreamed of. This is when we feel like life is beginning. We are really deciding what we want to do as adults. We are on top of the world and know who we are and what we want in life. Making our own decisions is what we’ve been waiting for.

IN YOUR 30’s
In our 30’s we are living the life and feel that we’ve really grown up now. We’re smart and are comfortable in our own skin. We are so busy with work, kids, life, socializing and saving the world. “Who would have thought I’d be this old”. We remember our 20’s and realize how much we’ve grown and where life went based on our own decisions.

IN YOUR 40’S
Now it’s our 40’s. We are really sure who we are now. We can’t believe we are in our 40’s already. The aging process is starting to take place. But that’s ok. We are feeling like life is good. But we do some reflecting to realize how much we thought we knew, how we criticized ourselves and that we really are ok the way we are. What others think about us no longer matters.

IN YOUR 50’S
The 50’s is a whole new thing. AARP starts sending you offers and you get senior discounts. At the same time all our friends are becoming empty nesters. We start to lose our parents, our friends are losing parents and death seems to be happening more and more. There’s a new appreciation for life and although we are feeling a sadness at times life just seems to be precious and realize that each moment counts and we should make the best of what we have.

IN YOUR 60’S
Senior citizenship is here and it’s time to look back and see how much we’ve enjoyed in life and look forward to the rest or our lives in retirement. If we didn’t realize it in our 50’s now we know we are official senior citizens. We’ve come to enjoy life’s little moments and watch the next generation grow and conquer the world.

Each 10 years look back over the past 10 years. See how you’ve grown and continue on your pursuit of a lifetime of happiness in this phase of your life.
You are in charge of your own happiness. That doesn’t mean there won’t be hard times, but as you reflect, you’ll see that what concerned you 10 years ago wasn’t really so bad. By the time we become Senior citizens we realize that it’s a wonderful life and all that we worry about wasn’t worth the energy.

Enjoy today, the moment and everything you can. At the end of each day, reflect and look over all the great things that happen that day. Your happiness depends on it.

12 Ideas For Operation Holiday Cheer

bright snowflake12 ideas for Operation Holiday Cheer and to make the best of the rest of this year. There’s so much going on during this time of year it’s really hard to focus. The holidays are coming, Time for the end of the year tax planning. Deciding what to do over the holidays.

Fun is used to describe this time of year, but there are many that don’t feel that way. So many people are alone or don’t have anything to make the holidays a fun time.

My favorite holidays were before I had kids my husband and I used to buy something small and stop by an unsuspecting friend’s house. It was so much fun to do. People were always pleasantly surprised. You could feel the holiday cheer in the air. That was before the whole random acts of kindness or pay it forward movements.

Once my husband passed away it was hard to do that. I had my 2 kids and it just wasn’t feasible. In more recent years I’ve donated to families through different organizations or just to people I knew needed it. It’s such a warm feeling. This year I’ve seen and heard about how much people have gotten away from spending time together. I don’t think this is anything new but people are seeing it more now.

operation holiday cheer

Get the end of year stuff taken care of and then find some things to do to help spread the holiday cheer for you and for others. Here’s some things you can do to spend more time together and make the most of the rest of this year.

  1. Go to a light exhibit with the family.
  2. Watch a movie on television. Bring the popcorn.
  3. Make cookies together.
  4. Don’t forget about game night.
  5. Decorate your house inside and out.
  6. Buy gifts for people you don’t normally buy for and stop by or just leave it at the door anonymously.
  7. How about bringing a box of dog bones to a shelter.
  8. Why not go to a homeless shelter and help serve food.
  9. Children’s hospital can always use gifts for the kids that are in there long term.
  10. Visit a nursing home or assisted living with some cookies or even cute homemade gifts by kids or flowers.
  11. Donate blood.
  12. Sit in front of a fire and roast marshmallows.

Now that you have a list, talk to your family or friends and see what you can do this year to change the atmosphere of the end of the year. You will feel your heart grow.