We spend time worrying about things and trying to find happiness. It’s right there. Don’t you see it? The 10 year rule for happiness is when you reflect on the past 10 years and look at what worked and what makes us happy.
As the years go by we change. Hormones are different, life situations change and as human beings, we hate change. Each decade our life to bring on new life changes and we have to adapt. We don’t see it, but it’s there. Some of us have no problem going through these changes and others know something is different and they can’t pinpoint it.
THE FIRST 10 YEARS
This is the time that we learn the functional things you need to know to survive. Eating, crawling, walking, talking, playing and socializing just to name a few. But by the time we are getting close to the age of 10. We are ready to move on and start being our own little independent selves.
10 TO YOUR TEENS
During this time frame we start to become our own person. We really want to be independent, and start to develop who we want to be. Are we smart, beautiful, social, popular, a jock or a nerd. Of course this time in our lives are so hard. Everyone is judging us. There’s bullies and buddies. We fight to be our own person.
IN YOUR 20’S
Now you’re in your 20’s and you’re educated and working, maybe finding your soul mate, getting married, having kids or getting your own home and decorating it the way you’ve always dreamed of. This is when we feel like life is beginning. We are really deciding what we want to do as adults. We are on top of the world and know who we are and what we want in life. Making our own decisions is what we’ve been waiting for.
IN YOUR 30’s
In our 30’s we are living the life and feel that we’ve really grown up now. We’re smart and are comfortable in our own skin. We are so busy with work, kids, life, socializing and saving the world. “Who would have thought I’d be this old”. We remember our 20’s and realize how much we’ve grown and where life went based on our own decisions.
IN YOUR 40’S
Now it’s our 40’s. We are really sure who we are now. We can’t believe we are in our 40’s already. The aging process is starting to take place. But that’s ok. We are feeling like life is good. But we do some reflecting to realize how much we thought we knew, how we criticized ourselves and that we really are ok the way we are. What others think about us no longer matters.
IN YOUR 50’S
The 50’s is a whole new thing. AARP starts sending you offers and you get senior discounts. At the same time all our friends are becoming empty nesters. We start to lose our parents, our friends are losing parents and death seems to be happening more and more. There’s a new appreciation for life and although we are feeling a sadness at times life just seems to be precious and realize that each moment counts and we should make the best of what we have.
IN YOUR 60’S
Senior citizenship is here and it’s time to look back and see how much we’ve enjoyed in life and look forward to the rest or our lives in retirement. If we didn’t realize it in our 50’s now we know we are official senior citizens. We’ve come to enjoy life’s little moments and watch the next generation grow and conquer the world.
Each 10 years look back over the past 10 years. See how you’ve grown and continue on your pursuit of a lifetime of happiness in this phase of your life.
You are in charge of your own happiness. That doesn’t mean there won’t be hard times, but as you reflect, you’ll see that what concerned you 10 years ago wasn’t really so bad. By the time we become Senior citizens we realize that it’s a wonderful life and all that we worry about wasn’t worth the energy.
Enjoy today, the moment and everything you can. At the end of each day, reflect and look over all the great things that happen that day. Your happiness depends on it.