I hate Valentine’s Day feelings of grief. Valentine’s day is hard for some without suffering a loss.
When you lose a spouse, or significant other, it is already hard to deal with the feelings. Now you throw in this romantic Valentine’s Day holiday and it just adds another day in the year to remember that you suffered a great loss.
I’ve read posts from people that have lost a partner in life and so many people have heartache. We see love all around, candy, flowers, cards, gifts, decorations, people holding hands, special Valentine’s Day menus. It’s hard to be happy for those that have that special someone.
I remember before marriage I was single and it was always a day that you just wished you’d have someone. When you have a great love and you’ve had some wonderful years, then they are pulled out from under you, you just want to crawl in a hole.
For me it’s been over 18 years since my husband died. We didn’t do much, but for us just being together was special. I’m in a great place in my life, but hate seeing other people suffer.
If that’s you, I want you to know It will get easier, I promise. I just takes time.
My message to those that have a great love by their sides, love them every day. Cherish each day you have together. Take a minute and think about those that lost someone and give your “date” an extra special hug for someone who’s suffered the huge loss of a lifetime.
For those feeling the heartache, allow yourself to feel the pain, but treat yourself to something that may give you a moment of happiness.