A New Year, A New Resolution

It’s hard to believe that it’s already 2016. A New Year, a new resolution or two. It’s time to close out one year and prepare for the next.

I’m looking back over the last year and see that I’ve started a new chapter in my life. While I’m still working things out I know I’m going into the right direction.

My first resolution is to continue my blog. My blog is still in the works and I’m learning all kinds of things. I can’t wait to put them into action.  I’m still having some technical issues, but see things coming together in the very near future.

Those following and reading, I hope you’ll stick with me as I put it together.

My New years resolution is to keep going and working my a- – off.

I would love your opinions. I’ve gotten a few but would love more.  Please comment, message me on facebook or send me an email. There’s also a contact form below.

I’m looking forward to a fabulous 2016 and putting my resolutions into action.

Communication With Your Teenager

Trust Your Mom

Having good communication with your teenager is hard, but so important. I’m sure I’m not alone when I say that. It takes good communication to get them to trust you.

We’ve had several discussions on how to handle communication. We’ve gone back and forth and I think we are finally at a point where we can communicate, talk and have trust.

The best conversations I have with my kids are in the car. I used to drive them to school when they were younger. Looking back, I know that’s when I learned a lot about what they were thinking.

Over the years I’ve had to make coming to me a safe place to go when they need help. I’m not talking about tying a shoe or doing laundry for them, but when there’s peer pressure.

They have heard many things from me, including how to get away with not giving in or if it’s a hard situation how to get out of it. For example, if they are in a situation where they are being super pressured into drinking a beer, go to the bathroom, dump out the beer and fill it with water. Nobody will know.

If there ride has been drinking or doing drugs or if they themselves are too drunk to drive, I’ve told them to call me and I’ll come get them no questions asked.

One day my younger son said “I know you’ve said I can call and no questions asked, but I feel like you will get mad at me”. I had to think fast on my feet. How can I make him feel safe and trust me.

Ah ha!

I told him “if that happens and I start giving you a hard time just remind me I said no questions asked. However, I will be so happy that you did the right thing and you won’t die or kill someone I’m sure I won’t be mad.”

The town I live in has lost a number of kids because someone got behind the wheel and the others got in the car with them. No parent should have to deal with that. Teach them well and offer them a no questions asked way out so they feel safe.

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Don’t Talk Politics

I was with my in-laws today. We all get along well. We laugh and pick on each other. But there’s one subject that is Taboo. You guessed it, politics, don’t talk politics.

I myself can talk both politics and religion. I’m open minded and listen without judgement. I always want others to do the same to me when we talk either of those.

When I left today my Brother-in-law told me to listen to Rush Limbaugh. He wants me to listen to what he has to say and then research it. I wouldn’t have a problem with that, but I don’t think that people realize that I have done research but I’m not one to argue or debate. People get to heated.

Here’s my thoughts. I’ve never told him how I feel, who I voted for or what I believe. Well, maybe some small inklings of what’s inside my mind. I’ve listened to both sides and can see how people would believe things in either direction. But most of the time when I have these conversations with people they don’t really want to hear what I think or what I have to say, they just want me to listen to what they have to say. And if I don’t agree the conversation gets heated. That is a huge turn off and makes me want to run in the other direction.

I’m not the only one that feels that way. I’ve had this very conversation with other people and it’s not about the political issues but how some people don’t want to hear anything you have to say, even if they do agree.
And after all the listening I do look into things, I know what I believe and don’t believe. I just don’t talk politics. Especially if I don’t get to have my opinion.

I know things are going on in the world that aren’t pleasant, I know something needs to be done about it. But the bigger question is, what should be done.
Another point, there is so much going on and the government does know. They do have to be careful what they tell the population because people may panic. And, if they do tell us what’s going on and what they are doing to stop things then we’d be tipping off the people that shouldn’t know what we are doing.

My mother just went to Israel and said that people just live their lives because they won’t let fear keep them from living their lives. I live that way to some extent. I won’t purposely through myself in front of the train but I will get on the train. I don’t want anyone to get the best of me.

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My Challenge Progress

On my 30 days of content challenge I’m just plugging away. I’m at day 25. Yup, I’m on the home stretch. I’ve gotten just about all of my blogs written and posted. I’ve done 18 posts to date so have a little bit of catching up to do.

My hope is that my blog is helpful for people. Many blogs have a purpose and some a goal. My main goal and purpose is to help others by sharing my knowledge and experiences.

I’ve had fun doing this challenge. I’ve been able to write on a number of topics and that is helping me narrow down what I want to blog about.

I will continue to post and try new things until I narrow down what I see as most helpful. Now I’m posting everyday, or at least trying too. I’ll play catch up over the next few days and will post several more. I do have to tell you how much fun this has been. I’ve gotten feedback from several people and it’s all been positive.

If you’ve been interested in my blog or have a blog or want to give blogging a try, I am happy to help you. Just sign up for my blog via email. Then let me know by private messaging me or sending me a private email and we can talk. I will get in touch with you once I have my challenge done and a few things tweaked.

Once I finish this challenge I will start working on improving my blog on both the content and the visual. I will probably try video blogging too. I’m so excited and hope you’ll sign up on the main page of my blog. If you can’t figure it out, let me know and I’ll put you on the list.