Anticipation on the holidays

Anticipation of holidays can be so hard when you lose someone you love. Time really does help. But sometimes the holidays bring on these emotions you don’t expect. The good news is that the anticipation is usually worse than the day/time you were anticipating.

You should always be prepared for what you may feel and plan something that will help you honor that person. Light a candle, tell a story about them, send a balloon up with a note or take just plan some time to think about them. It doesn’t have to be anything major, just so you are prepared and allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come your way.

It doesn’t always have to be a holiday. What about when it’s not. Sometimes you go on with your day and you do something that reminds you of your loved one and as you start to feel these emotions, they catch you by surprise.

Recently a tree fell on my deck. I was very lucky. Just a broken screen and a couple of cracked rail caps. I went and bought the rail caps and put them on myself. I was ready to pick up the phone and call my stepfather and brag. But, I remembered that he died a few years back. I remembered things like when I had a question about something broken I called him. When I fixed something on my own, I called him and he was always proud. It’s been a while since he died, but it still had that twinge of “I miss him.” I don’t ever want that to go away.

For me this year it was a different than past holiday seasons. Thanksgiving seemed to be very small this year. I always had a large group, around 20 people. Everyone seemed to have different plans this year. It turned out to be 2 friends, my 2 kids and myself. Later the evening a friend’s daughter in law came with her kids.

Christmas was smaller too. My kids are older now and don’t want or need much. Opening gifts was much quicker and my older son went to his girlfriend’s house. My other son and I were here, just hanging out. I took a nap and he played video games. It was a reality check for me. I realized that my family was not only small, but it’s shrunk. Now my kids will be doing their own thing and I get a small portion of their time. For now, I’ll take what I have.

I’ve been dealing with the empty nest and seeing lots of changes in my life and family. As the New Year approaches I realize that it’s time to kick start the next stage in my life. Like adding some new traditions. As I adjust to less time with my kids and a small family I know that things are changing and the things I do need to change.

I’ve decided that this coming year is going to be the year of new traditions and new beginnings. Whether grieving a loss or the fact that a new stage of life is coming, we need to change with the loss or the new stage of life. Why not take some old traditions and combine them with some new.

A New Year, A New Resolution

It’s hard to believe that it’s already 2016. A New Year, a new resolution or two. It’s time to close out one year and prepare for the next.

I’m looking back over the last year and see that I’ve started a new chapter in my life. While I’m still working things out I know I’m going into the right direction.

My first resolution is to continue my blog. My blog is still in the works and I’m learning all kinds of things. I can’t wait to put them into action.  I’m still having some technical issues, but see things coming together in the very near future.

Those following and reading, I hope you’ll stick with me as I put it together.

My New years resolution is to keep going and working my a- – off.

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I’m looking forward to a fabulous 2016 and putting my resolutions into action.

12 Ideas For Operation Holiday Cheer

bright snowflake12 ideas for Operation Holiday Cheer and to make the best of the rest of this year. There’s so much going on during this time of year it’s really hard to focus. The holidays are coming, Time for the end of the year tax planning. Deciding what to do over the holidays.

Fun is used to describe this time of year, but there are many that don’t feel that way. So many people are alone or don’t have anything to make the holidays a fun time.

My favorite holidays were before I had kids my husband and I used to buy something small and stop by an unsuspecting friend’s house. It was so much fun to do. People were always pleasantly surprised. You could feel the holiday cheer in the air. That was before the whole random acts of kindness or pay it forward movements.

Once my husband passed away it was hard to do that. I had my 2 kids and it just wasn’t feasible. In more recent years I’ve donated to families through different organizations or just to people I knew needed it. It’s such a warm feeling. This year I’ve seen and heard about how much people have gotten away from spending time together. I don’t think this is anything new but people are seeing it more now.

operation holiday cheer

Get the end of year stuff taken care of and then find some things to do to help spread the holiday cheer for you and for others. Here’s some things you can do to spend more time together and make the most of the rest of this year.

  1. Go to a light exhibit with the family.
  2. Watch a movie on television. Bring the popcorn.
  3. Make cookies together.
  4. Don’t forget about game night.
  5. Decorate your house inside and out.
  6. Buy gifts for people you don’t normally buy for and stop by or just leave it at the door anonymously.
  7. How about bringing a box of dog bones to a shelter.
  8. Why not go to a homeless shelter and help serve food.
  9. Children’s hospital can always use gifts for the kids that are in there long term.
  10. Visit a nursing home or assisted living with some cookies or even cute homemade gifts by kids or flowers.
  11. Donate blood.
  12. Sit in front of a fire and roast marshmallows.

Now that you have a list, talk to your family or friends and see what you can do this year to change the atmosphere of the end of the year. You will feel your heart grow.