FASFA deadline is almost here

As the FASFA deadline is almost here, Know your deadlines and get them filled out and submitted. Remember, you can always estimate your financial information and send it in corrected later.

Click Here for the website to fill out the FASFA forms to help pay for your child’s education.

Here’s a post I wrote previously with tips on filing your FASFA forms for college.

FASFA Deadline is Fast Approaching

FASFA Deadline is Fast Approaching

The FAFSA deadline is fast approaching. If your kids are planning you MUST Fill out the FASFA forms, no if’s and’s or but’s.

It seems like a daunting task, but if you don’t fill it out, you won’t get anything. If you do fill it out you have a 50/50 shot. If you haven’t started, don’t wait, click here to fill out the application on the FASFA site.

It’s also important to get started early and fill everything out completely and accurately. People make mistakes all the time and those mistakes can cost you money. 11 Common FASFA Mistakes is an article to help you know what you’re looking for.

Check with your school too. Your counselor can guide you if you don’t have a specialist in the school.

Communication With Your Teenager

Trust Your Mom

Having good communication with your teenager is hard, but so important. I’m sure I’m not alone when I say that. It takes good communication to get them to trust you.

We’ve had several discussions on how to handle communication. We’ve gone back and forth and I think we are finally at a point where we can communicate, talk and have trust.

The best conversations I have with my kids are in the car. I used to drive them to school when they were younger. Looking back, I know that’s when I learned a lot about what they were thinking.

Over the years I’ve had to make coming to me a safe place to go when they need help. I’m not talking about tying a shoe or doing laundry for them, but when there’s peer pressure.

They have heard many things from me, including how to get away with not giving in or if it’s a hard situation how to get out of it. For example, if they are in a situation where they are being super pressured into drinking a beer, go to the bathroom, dump out the beer and fill it with water. Nobody will know.

If there ride has been drinking or doing drugs or if they themselves are too drunk to drive, I’ve told them to call me and I’ll come get them no questions asked.

One day my younger son said “I know you’ve said I can call and no questions asked, but I feel like you will get mad at me”. I had to think fast on my feet. How can I make him feel safe and trust me.

Ah ha!

I told him “if that happens and I start giving you a hard time just remind me I said no questions asked. However, I will be so happy that you did the right thing and you won’t die or kill someone I’m sure I won’t be mad.”

The town I live in has lost a number of kids because someone got behind the wheel and the others got in the car with them. No parent should have to deal with that. Teach them well and offer them a no questions asked way out so they feel safe.

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Being Bullied Sucks

It’s a horrible feeling to watch your child get bullied. Being bullied sucks. One of my kids was bullied to an incredible extent. It changed his whole life and how he looks at the world. I too have been bullied, but not as a kid, as an adult.

teenage-boy-feeling-intimidated-as-he-walks-homeI couldn’t even imagine being bullied. When I found out he’d been bullied I was beside myself. I’m sure you can imagine. I believe that you are only as happy as your happiest child. I knew something was wrong and I kept asking my son. I talked to the school and they told me he was fine. Three years later it all came to a head and I found out that he was a “targeted” kid. This was from the school counselor that told me there weren’t any issues and that he was getting student of the month. “There’s no way a child is so great in school and not at home” was what I kept saying.

He wound up going to another school for middle school and he did great there. The school was really on top of things. But he still has lack of confidence to some extent. With lots of work on my part and future schools he turned out ok.

Working is something I’ve always enjoyed. I’ve had some great bosses in my life. I’ve also worked for myself and I have to say I’m the best boss … ha ha ha!
corporate-bullyA recent job started out great. Over time things seemed to change. I couldn’t do anything right. I was belittled and disrespected on a regular basis. I talked to him about it and it changed for a little bit. We went to a conference and in talking with my boss there he told me he felt like he couldn’t yell at me because he was afraid if he did I’d quit. I think I’m correct if I tell you that your boss shouldn’t be yelling at you ever.

I didn’t realize how bad it was until my son pointed out that I always said “I love my job, but today my boss did X.” I started noticing more and he was right. A friend called me one night and I started crying and when asked what was wrong I told him that I was having a tough time at work because my boss didn’t like anything I was doing. My friend started telling me that my boss was wrong. He’d known me for a long time and he knew I was very capable never mind good at what I do and extremely loyal. That got me really thinking.

I couldn’t leave because I needed another job first. It wasn’t easy to find one. My confidence was so low I couldn’t interview right. I looked at job descriptions and didn’t think I was capable because I was constantly being told I wasn’t doing things right.

Let me tell you, if you are being talked to disrespectfully and talked down to, that is verbal abuse or bullying. Being bullied sucks, for kids and adults alike.